The answer to that question is also usually the answer to this question…Who’s hosting the wedding?

Together Forever Wedding Invitation

Together Forever Invitation

The name(s) of those who are paying, or helping to pay, for the wedding are typically listed on your wedding invitations just before the line that reads ‘invite you to share with us‘ or ‘request the honour of your presence‘ or something similar, depending on your choice of wording.  This may be you and your fiancé or it may be one or both sets of parents.  It may also be both you and your parents combined meaning all of you should be listed as doing the inviting.

If you and your fiancé will be hosting your own wedding, you should be listed as inviting your guests.  You can still also reference your parents or list them by name.  Both options are shown in these sample verses…

BRIDE
and
GROOM
invite you to share in the joy
when they exchange marriage vows
and begin their new life together
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

~~~

Because you have shared in our lives
by your friendship and love, we
BRIDE
and
GROOM
together with our parents
invite you to share
the beginning of our new life together
when we exchange marriage vows
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

~~~

BRIDE
and
GROOM
together with their parents
BRIDE'S PARENTS
and
GROOM'S PARENTS
invite you to share in the joy
when they exchange marriage vows
and begin their new life together
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

If parents will be hosting the wedding, there are typically three scenarios that could apply to your wedding invitation wording as shown in these sample verses…

Bride’s parents

BRIDE'S PARENTS
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
BRIDE
to
GROOM
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

Groom’s parents

GROOM'S PARENTS
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
BRIDE
to their son
GROOM
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

Bride and Groom’s parents

BRIDE'S PARENTS
and
GROOM'S PARENTS
invite you to share in the joy
of the marriage uniting their children
BRIDE
and
GROOM
This celebration of love will be
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

If either the bride’s or groom’s parents are hosting the wedding but happen to be divorced, here are some sample wordings…

Divorced parents hosting wedding together (TIP…mother’s name is listed first if she is also paying towards the wedding)

FATHER’S NAME
and
MOTHER’S NAME
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
BRIDE
to
GROOM
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

Divorced parent and new stepparent hosting the wedding

Mr. and Mrs. Jack Johnson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of {his or her} or 
{mother’s name or father’s name} or {their} daughter
BRIDE
to
GROOM
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

Divorced and remarried parents both hosting wedding

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
and
Mr. and Mrs. Jack Johnson
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of {their} or 
{father and mother’s names} daughter
BRIDE
to
GROOM
This celebration of love will be
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

Since this is just a sampling, feel free to browse more examples of formal wedding invitation wording on our website.

Wedding invitation text can be broken down into answering the questions of who, when and where as they pertain to your wedding details.

Your invitation wording will need to answer these specific questions to provide your guests with all the details they will need about your wedding…

  • Who is inviting guests to the wedding?  This typically refers to whoever is hosting/financing the wedding.  Their name(s) should be printed preceding a phrase like ‘invite you to share with us’ or ‘request the honour of your presence’, or however you choose to have it worded on your wedding invites.  This may be your parents or you and your fiance. It may also be both you and your parents meaning all of you should be listed as extending the invitation.
  • Who is getting married? This may seem obvious but it also pertains to how you and your fiance’s names will be printed. If your parents’ names will be included, only your first and middle names are necessary since there’s no need to repeat last names unless yours is different from theirs.  For example, if only your parents will be listed, simply list your first and middle names but your fiance’s last name should be included in the absence of his parents’ names. If you prefer, you can choose not to include your middle names.
  • When is your wedding ceremony taking place?  The proper order of listing these details is as follows – day of the week, calendar date, year and time of day.  Notice that this information is written out in words instead of numbers as shown in this example:

Saturday, the fifth of September
Two thousand fifteen
at two o’clock in the afternoon

  • Where is your wedding ceremony taking place?  Be sure to list the name of the location, the number & street address and the city & state.  No abbreviations or zip codes are included as in this example:

The Bible Church
1111 Main Street
Chicago, Illinois

  • When is your wedding reception taking place?  You can either list the specific time of your reception in a typical numeric format or simply use the phrase ‘immediately following the ceremony’.  No need to repeat the day, date and year which were already included with your ceremony information unless a post-wedding reception will be held at a later date.  If space allows, reception details can be listed directly on your wedding invitation or a separate reception card can be included, especially if it’s a reception being held on a separate date.
  • Where is your wedding reception taking place?   The details of where your reception is being held should be listed in the same way as for your ceremony, either on your invitation or as part of a separate reception card.

These are simply the basics of invitation wording to make sure all the details are properly included for your guests.  Most likely you will be viewing sample verses that will guide you through the information you need to complete as you customize your chosen design.  You may also choose to add custom lines of verse depending on the design of your wedding invitation.

Shimmering Lights Seal n Send Invitation

Shimmering Lights Seal n Send Invitation

There are certain things to be aware of when it comes to wording wedding invitations, especially the use of abbreviations. These etiquette guidelines are appropriate for both your invitation verse and for addressing the envelopes.

  • Non-professional titles such as Mr. and Mrs. are acceptable abbreviations.
  • Professional titles such as Doctor should be spelled out.
  • Symbols should not be used so the word ‘and’ should be spelled out.
  • The date and year of your wedding should be written in words versus  numbers.
  • Times on the wedding invitation should be listed in words and without the abbreviations of a.m. and p.m. Instead, use the phrase ‘in the afternoon’ or ‘in the evening’ to be specific.
  • Names of states as well as the words ‘Street’, ‘Boulevard’, ‘Avenue’, ‘Trail’, etc. should be written out completely.

Here is an example of wording using these traditional guidelines:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jennifer Smith
to
Jason Jackson
on Saturday, the nineth of August
Two Thousand and Fourteen
at two o’clock in the afternoon
St. Paul’s Church
10 West Main Street
Madison, Wisconsin

Rustic Battenburg Lace Invitation

Rustic Battenburg Lace Invitation

There are certain things to keep in mind when planning your wedding invitation wording.

Use this link to learn more about these wording challenges.

Jeweled Love Wedding Invitation

‘What to write on wedding invitations‘ is probably a common question among wedding couples when designing their invites.  Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed by this step.

There are many different choices of wedding invitation verses you can choose from as far as the basic wording but here are some tips for the details you need to provide to fill in the blanks for whichever verse you select…

The first determination is who’s actually hosting the wedding and therefore extending the invitation to attend.  Are your parents paying or are you and your fiance paying for your own wedding?  If it’s you, your names will be listed as doing the inviting but you can still choose to have your parents’ names listed in a different way.

What date will your wedding be taking place? – day of the week, date, month and year all written out in words.

Where will the ceremony take place? – name and full mailing address of location including city and state all spelled out.

What time will you be getting married? – again, all written out in words versus numbers.

Your wedding reception information may or may not be listed on your invitation, depending on your preference and whether there is enough room.  An alternative is including a separate reception card.

For more wording information and examples, visit my previous post – Best Suggestions for Wedding Invitation Wording.

Wedding Invitations Delicate Floral

Wedding invitation wording is important for revealing all the details of your special day like date, time, location, etc.  It can’t be emphasized enough how important it is to carefully proof your wording before having all of your invitations printed.

Did you also know that your invitation wording can reveal information to guests about your wedding location and what type of celebration it will be?  Here are some examples…

Using the formal spelling of ‘honour’ in the phrase ‘the honour of your presence is requested’ is traditionally used when having a church ceremony.

The phrase ‘private wedding ceremony’ lets guests know you are having a small, intimate ceremony to which not all guests are being invited.

The wording ‘you are joyfully invited to an informal outdoor wedding celebration’ gives hints as to the attire expected of guests.

‘Please join COUPLE for a post-wedding celebration’ means they will already be married by the time the reception, to which you are being invited, will take place.

These are just a few examples.  There are so many different verses to choose from, you are sure to find the wedding invitation wording to fit the specifics of your celebration.

Beach Bliss Wedding Invitations

United in Love InvitationA common inquiry related to wedding invitations is about how to include wording for wedding gifts.  This may mean providing information about your gift registry or maybe requesting only monetary gifts.  As tempting as it may be, it is not proper etiquette to include this information within your wedding invitation wording.  It tends to imply that you are expecting a gift.  Word of mouth is the best way to spread these details.

Many of your guests may already know at which stores you are registered from your bridal shower invitations.  If they are still looking to find out about any registries you have, they can contact you directly or your parents.

Another option is to have a personal wedding website and include that information on an insert with your invitation.  On your website, guests can find all kinds of information – the story of you and your fiance, who’s in your wedding party, directions to the wedding venue, hotel information if necessary for out-of-town guests, where you are registered, etc.

Planning a wedding is a lot of work and there are many important details that though very little, make the wedding just perfect. Choosing the wording on your wedding invitations is something that should be thoroughly thought through to make sure that all parties who need mentioning are included. It can be hard to word an invitation if you have a tricky family situation but with a little time and research you will no doubt come up with something perfect.

You have lots of things to take into consideration when choosing the correct wording for you invitations. Follow this simple check list before you order wedding invitations to narrow down the best possible wording for your situation!

Bride and Groom Hosting the Wedding

If the bride and groom are hosting and paying for the wedding their names will appear in full but the parents’ names may not be. It is still polite to mention the parents so many times the invitation will appear as:

Together with their Parents
Patricia Belle Marrow
&
Matthew Hank Simmons
Invite you to share in
Their special and sacred day
As they vow their love to each other…

Notice, as a rule of thumb the girls name always appears first.

Parents Hosting

Most of the time it will be the bride’s parents who are hosting the wedding. Even if this is the case, it is still polite to mention the grooms’ parents as well. The wording could look something like this:

Mr. and Mrs. Frank Marrow
Request the honor of your presence
At the marriage of their daughter
Patricia Belle Marrow
To
Matthew Hank Simmons
Son of Mr. and Mrs. Brendan Simmons

If both sets of parents are hosting, you can include the grooms parents’ names directly under the brides parents’ names.

Split Parents Hosting

There are many different cases and one wording will not work for all. You will need to get creative and pick something that will include everyone without offending anyone. One option that is very general but includes everyone without getting into names is:

The families of
Patricia Belle Marrow
&
Matthew Hank Simmons
Invite you….

If you are going to include names be sure to mention who is doing the inviting and whose child the bride or groom actually is. If only one set of parents is divorced and they are hosting the wedding, simply state their names separately:

Mr. Frank Simmons and Mrs. Cindy Keys
Request the honor of your presence
At the marriage of their daughter….

Once you decide on which wording you are going to use for including names, you will need to make sure a few other important details are included:

Date:

Make sure you include the date of the wedding including the year, all written out as words. Also include the day of the week as people usually get married on Friday, Saturday or Sunday. Stating the day of the week will help as some people may just remember the weekend you are getting married and just assume it is on a Saturday.

Time:

Decide on what time the wedding will take place and include it on your invitation, again all written out in words instead of numerically.

Address:

It’s also important to list the name and complete address of the location so guests know exactly where your wedding will take place.

RSVP

If you will be hosting a reception or dinner for everyone who comes to the wedding, an RSVP is very important. You will need to know ahead of time how many people are coming. Make sure the RSVP date is set enough in advance so you have time to prepare.

Reception Invite

If you are having a private dinner reception that does not include all of the guests at the wedding, be sure to include a separate invitation for those who will be invited. Important details can include if it is an adult only reception or casual attire.

Do you need to find destination wedding wording for your invitations?  Your verse will really depend on your specific situation.

Will you be inviting guests to join you for the ceremony and celebration at your chosen destination?  If that’s the case, your wedding invitation wording will be quite typical.

If you will be having a private ceremony and then holding a post-wedding reception for your guests at a later date closer to home, here are some sample verses you may consider:

BRIDE’S PARENTS
and
GROOM’S PARENTS
celebrate with their children
BRIDE
and GROOM
as they marry in LOCATION
DATE
YEAR
 
Join the Wedding Reception
DATE
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE
 
~~~~~~~
At sunrise in LOCATION
BRIDE
and
GROOM
joined hands in marriage
DATE, YEAR
You’re invited
to the local celebration
on DATE, YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

Last week we covered the ‘when’ questions that need to be answered in your wedding invitation text.  This week we cover the ‘where’ questions.

  1. Where is your wedding ceremony taking place?  When listing the specifics, you need to include the name of the location, the number & street address and the city & state.  No abbreviations or zip codes are included as in this example:
    The Bible Church
    1111 North Main Street
    Chicago, Illinois
  2. Where is your wedding reception taking place?  The ‘where’ details of your wedding reception should be listed in the same way as for your ceremony.  As previously mentioned, these reception details can be listed directly on your wedding invitation if there is room or a separate reception card can be included to share this information with guests.